
There are many pastors that I know that are about to take a new church, and many churches that are seeking a pastor. This article was Preached by Dr. Jim Garlow on October 8, 1995 as he was leaving Metroplex Chapel in Dallas/Fort Worth, Texas, (which he had planted 13 years earlier) to go to Skyline Wesleyan Church in San Diego, California. I believe many churches will find it very beneficial as they move into the next season of their corporate journey.
1. Let your new pastor dream his dream. Let him have his own vision. Don’t tie him to the previous pastor’s vision. Let the previous pastor’s vision go. Release him. Embrace the new.
2. Let him be himself. He will be different than the previous pastor. If he is hilariously funny, let him be a clown. If he is unusually serious, let him be somber. Appreciate his uniqueness.
3. Commit to stand with him through the hard times. The honeymoon will eventually end. Be committed to him for the “long haul”. Put a defense around him. He will be attacked. Make sure you’re not one of the attackers. Don’t make him take the hits. Help protect him from the people with a “Jezebel spirit” who want to control and manipulate him and “till outside their vineyard.”
4. Let him lead. If you are part of the old staff that remains, give him your loyalty. If you are a board member who remains, give him full allegiance. Be committed to follow him.
5. Support him even when he can’t publicly explain why he had to make a certain decision. Bear in mind that pastors frequently cannot defend themselves in order to protect the guilty. They have to remain quiet about issues. Often times they have to dismiss a staff member, or remove a lay person from leadership (yes even when they first arrive) and yet they cannot discuss it. Consequently, the pastor receives criticism. If people knew the truth, they would support their pastor. Don’t try to be God. Just be quiet and support your pastor.
6. Release him from being your “best buddy”. He probably won’t be. If the church numbers above 100, it is more than he can possibly be close to, socially. Let him love you – and he will – but don’t try to spend large amounts of social time with him. He can’t physically spread himself around that thin.
7. Let his wife be herself. (This is assuming you are calling a male pastor, of course.) If she is hilariously funny and outgoing, let her be that way. If she is unbelievably quiet and shy, don’t attack her for not being friendly. If she is incredibly stylish, don’t criticize her. If she is non-stylish and looks out of date, it’s okay. The church will survive that too. If her skirts appear expensive, that’s her business. If her skirts are too short, be quiet and look the other way. Bottom line: Let her be herself. (NOTE: If your pastor is a female…well, you know how to “translate” this.)
8. Look for opportunities to encourage and affirm him. Find every opportunity verbally, by written notes, or other ways to encourage your pastor. The church will reap huge rewards.
9. Stay focused on the big picture. With the single exception of a pastor denying the reality of Jesus, there has never been a church fight that was really worth it. Don’t leave the church over any issue, unless he stops preaching that Jesus Christ was born of a virgin, died on the cross for our sins, physically resurrected, and is coming back again. As long as he preaches that, love him and stay with him. Bottom line: chill out! The 11th Commandment says, “Thou shalt not sweat it!” So don’t. Two years later, that issue won’t matter, but the big picture will – so focus on it.
10. Stand by your church. By all means, don’t leave the church during this time of transition. Of course it will be a difficult period. Transitions always are. But your church stood with you during your difficult times, so…stand with your church during her difficult times. It needs you. While you are in the transition it feels like it will last forever. But it won’t. When it passes, you will be glad you stayed put. If you expect your church to stand with you, then stand with it…no matter what!